It's time. I've had a great break from all things baby related and now it's time to get this ball rolling again and jump back on the TTC wagon.
I was at a baby shower a few weeks ago .... Hubby came along with me .... and within an hour of being at the shower, admiring my friends gorgeous baby bump, feeling the love and support the soon to be parents had ...... I got it. I started feeling, craving and yearning for a bub in my arms again.
It was in that moment that I realised it was time to start the TTC process again.
Slowly.
I want to take this slowly and make sure I've made the right decision. At the moment it feels 89.4541321650% right. So I went to the compounding chemist and filled my scripts. I've started back on DHEA and Melatonin again. This time Devora has me taking CoQ10, Inositol and L-Arginine twice a day.
I'm eating healthy and exercising regularly.
I've started meditating and my yoga class begins next week.
A few more months of this and we'll see if I'm ready to commit to the IVF cycle.
Stay tuned!
B xx
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Friday, 24 January 2014
Tuesday, 18 December 2012
It's finally over
They say you need to hit rock bottom before it gets better.
Here is a sample of my rock bottom.
Last Thursday I woke up around 5am with abdominal pain and lower back pain. I got up out of bed and went to the bathroom and started to feel dizzy and nauseous. I screamed out to DH and he helped me onto the lounge. I could barely talk. My focus was on breathing through the pain. I had so much pressure in my lower abdomen so hubby helped me back to the bathroom but I collapsed on the bathroom floor. I finally found the strength to tell hubby to call me an ambulance.
Within 5 minutes the ambulance had arrived and I was given some morphine to help the pain. Then it was off to hospital.
We arrived around 6am and I was seen to straight away. I explained I was due to have surgery at 5pm today for a cornual ectopic pregnancy. The Dr in emergency explained I'd be having surgery a lot earlier than that as I was bleeding internally - my worse fear confirmed - the pregnancy had ruptured.
It took 4 Dr's and 2 nurses 90 minutes to find a vein in my hand/arm to insert a cannula. I was dehydrated and my veins kept collapsing. The pain was starting to get excruciating not to mention the pain from the cannula attempts. So I kept sniffing the morphine until finally a vein behaved and a cannula inserted into my hand.
Lots of phone calls were made and the surgery was bought forward as quickly as possible. Hubby was beside himself with worry so I asked him to call mum and let her know I was in emergency again.
I was quickly transported to the private hospital, where the surgery was taking place and by that stage my pain was off the charts. I was struggling to breathe normally and taking short swallow breaths. Next, they moved me onto another bed and that was it. I SCREAMED like I've never screamed before.
"I CAN'T BREATHE"
"HELP ME"
"DO SOMETHING"
"KNOCK ME OUT. I CAN'T TAKE THE PAIN ANYMORE"
Hubby and my mum were crying and screaming at the nurses and surgeon to help me. I very clearly remember at this stage sinking to another level of survival. I calmed my breathing, stopped moving, focused on my prayers and willed myself to survive this.
I remember saying goodbye to my husband - telling him he was the man of my dreams and I've never loved someone as much as I loved him.
I remember saying goodbye to my mum - telling her how much I loved her and how sorry I was that she had to go through this.
My last vision was of my mum collapsing against a wall and hubby holding her - both crying.
Then the lights went out ......... and I woke up.
The nurse looked at me and told me I'd survived the surgery. I immediately said a prayer of thanks. Never in my life was I so thankful and grateful to be breathing, pain free, but breathing.
I asked her if I was still pregnant and her answer was no.
I asked her if I still had my uterus and her answer was yes.
I asked her if I needed a blood transfusion and she said nearly but no.
My final question was, "does my husband and mother know I'm ok" and she said yes.
Reuniting with my husband and mother was the best moment of my life. The weight was finally off my shoulders.
Whilst I still grieve and mourn the loss of my 3rd baby, I can't help but feel so thankful to be alive.
I'm now resting at home and the feelings of guilt and selfishness and starting to creep in. My desire and need to have child have not only put my life at risk, but my family and friends have had to endure the prospect of losing a wife, daughter, sister, friend and work colleague.
I knew the chances of an ectopic were higher this time round and I still wanted to attempt it. Does that make my selfish? I never could have foreseen this outcome and in all honesty, I don't think I can ever attempt it again. I can't put my hubby through this again and again and again.
So my initial thoughts are ....... It's finally over. I believe we may need to close the door on this TTC chapter. Typing that sentence brings tears to my eyes because it means our dreams are shattered. But how does one move on from this?
Here is a sample of my rock bottom.
Last Thursday I woke up around 5am with abdominal pain and lower back pain. I got up out of bed and went to the bathroom and started to feel dizzy and nauseous. I screamed out to DH and he helped me onto the lounge. I could barely talk. My focus was on breathing through the pain. I had so much pressure in my lower abdomen so hubby helped me back to the bathroom but I collapsed on the bathroom floor. I finally found the strength to tell hubby to call me an ambulance.
Within 5 minutes the ambulance had arrived and I was given some morphine to help the pain. Then it was off to hospital.
We arrived around 6am and I was seen to straight away. I explained I was due to have surgery at 5pm today for a cornual ectopic pregnancy. The Dr in emergency explained I'd be having surgery a lot earlier than that as I was bleeding internally - my worse fear confirmed - the pregnancy had ruptured.
It took 4 Dr's and 2 nurses 90 minutes to find a vein in my hand/arm to insert a cannula. I was dehydrated and my veins kept collapsing. The pain was starting to get excruciating not to mention the pain from the cannula attempts. So I kept sniffing the morphine until finally a vein behaved and a cannula inserted into my hand.
Lots of phone calls were made and the surgery was bought forward as quickly as possible. Hubby was beside himself with worry so I asked him to call mum and let her know I was in emergency again.
I was quickly transported to the private hospital, where the surgery was taking place and by that stage my pain was off the charts. I was struggling to breathe normally and taking short swallow breaths. Next, they moved me onto another bed and that was it. I SCREAMED like I've never screamed before.
"I CAN'T BREATHE"
"HELP ME"
"DO SOMETHING"
"KNOCK ME OUT. I CAN'T TAKE THE PAIN ANYMORE"
Hubby and my mum were crying and screaming at the nurses and surgeon to help me. I very clearly remember at this stage sinking to another level of survival. I calmed my breathing, stopped moving, focused on my prayers and willed myself to survive this.
I remember saying goodbye to my husband - telling him he was the man of my dreams and I've never loved someone as much as I loved him.
I remember saying goodbye to my mum - telling her how much I loved her and how sorry I was that she had to go through this.
My last vision was of my mum collapsing against a wall and hubby holding her - both crying.
Then the lights went out ......... and I woke up.
The nurse looked at me and told me I'd survived the surgery. I immediately said a prayer of thanks. Never in my life was I so thankful and grateful to be breathing, pain free, but breathing.
I asked her if I was still pregnant and her answer was no.
I asked her if I still had my uterus and her answer was yes.
I asked her if I needed a blood transfusion and she said nearly but no.
My final question was, "does my husband and mother know I'm ok" and she said yes.
Reuniting with my husband and mother was the best moment of my life. The weight was finally off my shoulders.
Whilst I still grieve and mourn the loss of my 3rd baby, I can't help but feel so thankful to be alive.
I'm now resting at home and the feelings of guilt and selfishness and starting to creep in. My desire and need to have child have not only put my life at risk, but my family and friends have had to endure the prospect of losing a wife, daughter, sister, friend and work colleague.
I knew the chances of an ectopic were higher this time round and I still wanted to attempt it. Does that make my selfish? I never could have foreseen this outcome and in all honesty, I don't think I can ever attempt it again. I can't put my hubby through this again and again and again.
So my initial thoughts are ....... It's finally over. I believe we may need to close the door on this TTC chapter. Typing that sentence brings tears to my eyes because it means our dreams are shattered. But how does one move on from this?
Thursday, 29 November 2012
CD38 / 17DPO - Numb
CD38 / 17DPO
hCG is 90
Dr just called and told me the hCG level has increased to 90 ..... still very low and just short of doubling. Was it silly of me to wish, hope and pray for a figure in the 1000's? Of course it was!!
The EPAS (Early Pregnancy Assessment Service) clinic manager met with me at the hospital this morning and we talked about my five year history TTC. It was nice to have someone geniuely listen and take notes. After I finished answering her questions, she was honest and said the chances of a viable pregnancy were slim to none.
And whilst I know this to be a fact, deep down it still cuts like a knife. Razor sharp. Slicing my heart in half.
Just for once, I want someone in my corner cheering a positive outcome. Instead I've had to endure 5 years worth of negative outcomes from every health professional I've encountered.
I'm so over feeling this pain. I'm becoming immune to it in a way. How do I keep doing this? Why do I keep doing this? Maybe children are not part of God's plan for hubby and I.
I'm broken from 2 losses this year. I'm broken from the countless surgeries my poor body has had to suffer over 4 years. I'm a shell of a women and completely numb.
The tears will arrive soon. I'm waiting for them and I hope I'm ready. I just don't want them to arrive at work today.
The plan from here ...... The EPAS clinic want to see me again on Saturday to repeat the beta hCG test. If I don't miscarry before then, I'm scheduled for bloods and another scan on Monday, which is my 6w mark.
My grandmothers funeral is on Tuesday, so I just pray I don't need surgery anytime soon.
If anyone is reading this, could I ask you to say a prayer to your God? I'll be eternally grateful.
B xx
hCG is 90
Dr just called and told me the hCG level has increased to 90 ..... still very low and just short of doubling. Was it silly of me to wish, hope and pray for a figure in the 1000's? Of course it was!!
The EPAS (Early Pregnancy Assessment Service) clinic manager met with me at the hospital this morning and we talked about my five year history TTC. It was nice to have someone geniuely listen and take notes. After I finished answering her questions, she was honest and said the chances of a viable pregnancy were slim to none.
And whilst I know this to be a fact, deep down it still cuts like a knife. Razor sharp. Slicing my heart in half.
Just for once, I want someone in my corner cheering a positive outcome. Instead I've had to endure 5 years worth of negative outcomes from every health professional I've encountered.
I'm so over feeling this pain. I'm becoming immune to it in a way. How do I keep doing this? Why do I keep doing this? Maybe children are not part of God's plan for hubby and I.
I'm broken from 2 losses this year. I'm broken from the countless surgeries my poor body has had to suffer over 4 years. I'm a shell of a women and completely numb.
The tears will arrive soon. I'm waiting for them and I hope I'm ready. I just don't want them to arrive at work today.
The plan from here ...... The EPAS clinic want to see me again on Saturday to repeat the beta hCG test. If I don't miscarry before then, I'm scheduled for bloods and another scan on Monday, which is my 6w mark.
My grandmothers funeral is on Tuesday, so I just pray I don't need surgery anytime soon.
If anyone is reading this, could I ask you to say a prayer to your God? I'll be eternally grateful.
B xx
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